Tips for Parents of New College Students

It can be difficult for parents to understand the college years of their children. The following list of pieces of advice for parents of new college students will help to preserve good relationships among the family members.

Don’t Ask Them if They Are Homesick

A power of suggestion may be a dangerous thing. The first weeks of college are activity-packed, and the challenge to adjusting to new situations takes a lot of a freshman’s concentration and time. Unless your child is reminded of it, he will probably be able to escape the frustration and loneliness of homesickness.

Ask Questions – But Not Too Many

First year students have a tendency to resent interference with their lifestyles, but most still want the security of knowing that parents are interested in them.

Visit – But Not Too Often

These visits give both parent and student the opportunity to find out more about the n things that both parties are experiencing. However, surprises are not appreciated much. Prior planning of visits is very important.

Don’t Worry About Sad Letters or Calls
Parenting can be an ungrateful job, especially during the college years. It a lot of give and a little to take. Be patient with calls and letters. Helping children is a hard work. Know that you are providing a real service as a sympathetic ear or advise dispenser.

Don’t Ask Them What They Are Going to Do After Graduation

They feel enormous pressure to make a life-long decision before they have proved their academic capability. Sometimes students need a part time job to understand what they enjoy doing. Pressing them to focus on the future can have a negative impact on their present performance.

Don’t Tell Them “These Are the Best Years of Your Life!”

Life at college can be full of mistakes, insecurities and disappointments. It is also full of inspiration, discovery and good people. Parents who insist upon the “best years” stereotypes are working against their children self-development. Those who accept the student’s highs and lows are providing the support and encouragement where it is needed most.

Helping children isn’t an easy task, that’s why it is important to follow the pieces of advice for parents, mentioned above.